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ARTICLES WRITTEN BY GAYE
AND THEY (her TEAM)
So much is being written about Covid-19 and it is sending so many people into a state of panic, anger, rage and at times despair.
At the other end of the spectrum, we are seeing kindness, understanding, compassion, sharing and support.
Everyone reacts in a way that gives them a sense of power albeit negative or positive, it is the way they are coping.
For some, it is a trigger of things they have experienced in the past.
For me, I try to bring a sense of peace (most of the time, with slight aspects of anxiety). I am trying to understand each person’s response to things (that doesn’t always happen).
It is a bit like the poem of the two wolves:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:
“A fight is going on inside people,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil–he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
The same fight is going on inside every other person.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
This is so true of what is happening today. At times it is easier said than done to change how we feel and react.
I do acknowledge everyone is doing what they need to, even though at times, there is no understanding of why some are.
I wish each and everyone a peace of Soul. Mind and Body and we will, in time, get through this.
On my journey of doing a lot of Soul work and discovery, one of the few things that I seem to come across with people is boundaries. When I look further into this, I began to realise that almost everyone has boundary issues in all its varied forms – the rich, the poor, the healthy, the unhealthy, those in power and those who seeming have an idyllic life – there are always boundaries. Listening to people and in particularly recently, this seems to be more apparent. So I thought I would draw more attention to “boundaries”.
I can hear people saying “of course I know about boundaries” but the truth is – do you really? Do you give it the energy that can empower you and your boundaries. I feel our awareness with boundaries surfaces from time to time but generally it is not something we really think about until “it is in our face” in whatever way it is presented. I know a lot of people are going through “boundary” challenges.
What Are Boundaries?
The easiest way to think about a boundary is a property line. We have all seen “No Trespassing” signs, which send a clear message that if you violate that boundary, there will be a consequence. This type of boundary is easy to picture and understand because you can see the sign and the border it protects. Personal boundaries can be harder to define because the lines are invisible, can change, and are unique to each individual.
Personal boundaries, just like the “No Trespassing” sign, define where you end and others begin and are determined by the amount of physical and emotional space you allow between yourself and others. Personal boundaries help you decide what types of communication, behaviour, and interaction are acceptable.
Upon looking more into “boundaries”, I have discovered some of its forms and want to share these with you.
It may be time to “take stock” of what is occurring in your life and those of the people you care for. See if you fall into any of the following and can you make the necessary changes to bring a more balanced and harmonious way of living.
It is entirely your choice which path you choose. I am not saying that change is always easy because it is not but when information is presented to you, why not evaluate that information and think about it and maybe, be proactive in the process. It may also be a “light bulb” moment for you. Gaye Piper and THEY
The following is information that is readily accessible for all through the Internet
Harriet Lerner’s feelings about boundaries are; “An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.”
Setting boundaries is essential if we want to be both physically and emotionally healthy.
Creating healthy boundaries is empowering. By recognizing the need to set and enforce limits, you protect your self-esteem, maintain self-respect, and enjoy healthy relationships.
Unhealthy boundaries cause emotional pain that can lead to dependency, depression, anxiety, and even stress-induced physical illness. A lack of boundaries is like leaving the door to your home unlocked: anyone, including unwelcome guests, can enter at will. On the other hand, having too rigid boundaries can lead to isolation, like living in a locked-up castle surrounded by a mote. No one can get in, and you can’t get out.
Types of Personal Boundaries
Physical boundaries provide a barrier between you and an intruding force, like a Band-Aid protects a wound from bacteria.
Physical boundaries include your body, sense of personal space, sexual orientation, and privacy. These boundaries are expressed through clothing, shelter, noise tolerance, verbal instruction, and body language.
An example of physical boundary violation: a close talker. Your immediate and automatic reaction is to step back in order to reset your personal space. By doing this, you send a non-verbal message that when this person stands so close you feel an invasion of your personal space. If the person continues to move closer, you might verbally protect your boundary by telling him/her to stop crowding you.
Some more examples of physical boundary invasions are:
2. Emotional and Intellectual
These boundaries protect your sense of self-esteem and ability to separate your feelings from others’. When you have weak emotional boundaries, it’s like getting caught in the midst of a hurricane with no protection. You expose yourself to being greatly affected by others’ words, thoughts, and actions and end up feeling bruised, wounded, and battered.
These include beliefs, behaviours, choices, sense of responsibility, and your ability to be intimate with others.
Examples of emotional and intellectual boundary invasions are:
Not knowing how to separate your feelings from your partner’s and allowing his/her mood to dictate your level of happiness or sadness (a.k.a. co-dependency).
It seems obvious that no one would want his/her boundaries violated. So why do we allow it? Why do we NOT enforce or uphold our boundaries?
Awareness is the first step in establishing and enforcing your boundaries
Assess the current state of your boundaries, using the list below:
HEALTHY BOUNDARIES allow you to:
UNHEALTHY BOUNDARIES are characterized by:
Tips for Setting Healthy Boundaries - (Modified from the book, Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin, by Anne Katherine)
I hope you take the time to put into practice some of the above ideas - Terri Cole
Just to add a little bit more to the mix the following is from Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards him or her and how they will respond when someone steps past those limits. They are built out of a mix of conclusions, beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning.
According to some in the counselling profession, personal boundaries help to define an individual by outlining likes and dislikes, and setting the distances one allows others to approach. They include physical, mental, psychological and spiritual boundaries, involving beliefs, emotions, intuitions and self-esteem.
Personal boundaries operate in two directions, affecting both the incoming and outgoing interactions between people. These are sometimes referred to as the 'protection' and 'containment' functions.
According to Nina Brown's self-help book, there are four main types of psychological boundary:
Consider Narcissism and do you know of anyone who falls into this spectrum?
Narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist will be treated as if they are part of the narcissist and be expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist there is no boundary between self and other.
What about Loss of Boundaries - Loss of conscious boundaries can occur when an individual is caught up in a unified, fast-moving crowd.
At times, the loss of personal boundaries in a communal experience, noting that such occurrences could be triggered by intense shared ordeals like hunger, fear or pain, and that such methods were traditionally used to create liminal conditions in initiation rites.
Rave culture has also been said to involve a dissolution of personal boundaries, and a merger into a binding sense of communality.
Rebuilding Boundaries - While a healthy relationship depends on the emotional space provided by personal boundaries, co-dependent personalities have difficulties in setting such limits, so that defining and protecting boundaries efficiently may be for them a vital part of regaining mental health.
Family therapists can help family members to develop clearer boundaries, by behaving in a well-defined way when treating them, drawing lines, and treating different generations in different compartments – something especially pertinent in families where healthy enmeshment overrides normal personal boundaries.
However, the establishment of personal boundaries in such instances may produce a negative fall-out. If the pathological state of interdependence had been a central facet of the relationship. This is especially true if the establishment of healthy boundaries results in limit setting which did not occur previously. It is important to distinguish between limits and boundaries in considering these situations.
So now you have come to the end of my article. I am trusting this information may empower you just a little more and how you choose to go forward is up to you. Will you break free of the “shackles” that bind you? Will you continue on as you have knowing this information? Or will you be the change in your own life?
People are generally in the habit of saying Yes, especially if you are a “people pleaser”, to most things when they really want to say No. Practice saying No a couple of times to start.
This is a lifestyle change, so don’t expect to change the way you do things straight away – take baby steps. Think about the change/s you want and you may even write a scenario of something you want to change – like a script.
Boundaries – a more complex word than I knew because we all experience boundaries and the depth and breadth of “boundaries” is actually huge. We may decide to “choose” which boundaries we want to deal with and let others go. It is a bit like “picking your battles”. So all in all, take care, be kind to yourself and when you can, in as much a positive way for yourself and others – consider ‘Boundaries”.
Namaste Gaye Piper and her team THEY
13 July 2015
Time to check in on your thought forms. How are they going?
At times it is easy to let the challenging thought forms stay with you because you understand them, you can allow yourself to be in them and they quite often become your friend because they are familiar.
You know on another level that they are also hampering your happiness, your progress, your life and you really want to change but it feels too difficult and you don’t have the energy or time to do it.
At times, you may feel it is too hard to think of anything else because of what is going on in your life and you do need to allow the challenging thoughts, feelings and emotions to be just that but keeping them with you only starts to impede your life and eventually your health.
Is it worth giving the other person that power? Because mostly the other person has moved on and rarely gives it any thought or takes no responsibility or accountability– only you do.
I THINK NOT – TAKE BACK YOUR POWER
You may need extra support and guidance at this time. No one says bringing more calming and positive thought forms back into your life is easy but remember you are the only one that cares on a much more deep level for you and you are important.
Bringing back more positive thoughts into your Mind, Body and Soul can lead to a sense of freedom and a healthier you. Letting go of the challenging energy brings lightness into your Mind, Body and Soul and after time, it becomes your life and a much easier one – you may have to allow the endings of that person or persons and this can sometimes mean family (not an easy thing to do).
Investing in yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and the Universe is very good at giving us the circumstances to see just how we are going with keeping a more positive approach to life.
We will always have moments where and when we have challenging thoughts but remember to allow them, acknowledge them and move on from them. This may take a few hours, a few days, even a few months but keep moving forward on your journey of bringing more freedom energy into your life.
Know that you do make a difference and you are so worth it and you deserve all the good things that you can bring into your life.
When you start seeing things a little different, gradually your life and energy will also start to resonate more and more and before you know it, you have changed and then the change ripples onto others.
Again, a great gift to oneself.
In light and blessings - Gaye and THEY (25 May 2015)
WHAT IS MEDITATION
I thought an article on WHAT IS MEDITATION may help you decide if meditation is for you (a little long but worth the read).
Meditation activates the sections of the brain in charge of the autonomic nervous system, which governs the functions in our bodies that we can't control, such as digestion and blood pressure. These are also the functions that are often compromised by stress. It makes sense, then, that changing or modifying these functions would help to lessen stress-related conditions such as heart disease, digestive problems and infertility.
© sitting quietly, or
© a word, or
© music or
There are many traditions and countless ways to practice meditation, the way in which I meditate and teach others to meditate is just one way.
I have had many successes with clients experiencing anxiety, reducing stress, depression etc through my meditations.
Meditation has an all encompassing effect on stress.
"Because it puts us in the middle of ourselves, which is not always where we want to be.
We make so many excuses. Be honest with yourself.
One Definition of meditation is:“a particular mood or state of consciousness that your body mind enters at certain times throughout your life. This mood, or feeling state, usually occurs when you are totally and selflessly involved in an activity to the point that there is little or no separation between you and what you are doing. At this moment, you are so absorbed in simply being, that your consciousness becomes tightly focused on the activity at hand, most of your usual mental chatter ceases, physical distraction and stress diminish, and the passage of time seems to be irrelevant.”
©Thought: Thoughts that come into the mind during meditation should be observed & allowed to float away.. ah interesting.
©Body: Sometimes the body feels wriggly; this is a form of resistance to relaxation, and to the inevitable life changes that becoming calm and centered bring to you. If this occurs, make sure you do some exercise before and after your meditation so that the body realizes that meditation comes with treats at both ends, and your body will also start to look forward to meditation.
©Deep Peace: This sometimes takes time to achieve, but eventually does happen.
©Experiences. Sometimes when we meditate we have some truly spectacular experiences. We may see really bright lights, angelic beings, great Masters or our own spiritual teachers, etc. We may experience intense bliss, and this is really something to look forward to.
So, Why do we meditate?Some of the reasons we meditation for are:
• Inner Stillness – peace training
And the Benefits of meditation are
Being aware of Breath in meditation brings forward a• Point of focus• It Encourages relaxation• And Lowers heart rate and blood pressure and• Teaches the mind stillness
Again, at times you will feel very fidgety and wriggly and with mind chatter going on and you think to yourself “This is not working”, “I can’t do this”. Realise this is normal. Have patience with yourself and if you can try and stay with it, it will become easier each time you meditate. If you tell yourself you can’t do it – then you won’t but if you tell yourself “I can do this”, then you will.
During meditation, your breath slows down and your mind quietens and with this process you create more oxygen in your body – in your blood and you become more balanced.
If you are on a spiritual path, meditation is one of the quickest ways for spiritual growth.If you are not, meditation can bring a calmness and peace you may not have felt before.
Some examples of how I use meditation are:
To connect to Self
To help heal illness within myself
To clean dirty energy in my home and put good energy in
To journey to different places
To send good, loving and positive energy to the Earth, to our Planet, to all the living things up it, especially the human race
There are so many ways to use meditation and I like to explore all I can through this modality.
Meditating once a week is very helpful. Meditating 2-3 times a week can bring great changes of peace, calmness and less stress in your life. If you can allow meditation to be a daily part of your life, you have given yourself the greatest gift.
I trust you have enjoyed the information on what meditation is all about and I welcome you to my meditation and discussion group – a world of “self”.
What I have learnt is, that we can do as much as we can with our thoughts, emotions and feelings but unless they match the energy of the core belief, it is an arduous task and we only get droplets of the whole and at times thinking, I am being positive in what I want to create but it does not seem to be happening and thus many feel that it is not working. We need to keep the faith that it will eventuate, that it will happen and try not to put an outcome date to it all.